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Parent and child

10 April 2019

A big thanks to all who shared their best parenting tips as part of our recent Harlem Globe Trotters tickets competition. We have drawn our winners and they have been contacted. However, there were so many wonderful words of wisdom that we wanted to share some of them with you. We hope you enjoy reading them as much as the Parent Lounge team has!

Communication

“Try to take an interest in school activities and ask open ended questions. Instead of ‘how was your day?’ or ‘how is school going?’, which often get a simple ‘fine’ as an answer, I try to ask, ‘tell me about your day’ or ‘what are you learning about at the moment’, and try to keep the conversation flowing from there.” — Nathan

“I use the ‘Fast Food Rule’ with teenagers. Always repeat back their request to them so they know you have listened and understood. This includes anything they say to you even if it is a grunt or "where are my socks". — Kathryn

Providing support

Provide a clean, quiet, mobile device-free and stress-free study environment. Additionally, support them with time management skills to ensure effective learning can occur.” — Juliene

“Pick five things to focus on, for example manners or homework, and that's it. Only worry about the ‘magic 5’ or you will get carried away with rules.” — Pixie

“Arm yourself with continuous supply of consistency, calmness, compassion, chocolate and chardonnay...use as required.” – Dawn

“Always try to remember whenever you make decisions that the aim of the process of parenting is to nurture the growth of your child into a healthy, independent adult. Provide support by teaching skills such as time management to complete assignments through sitting down together, looking at the criteria sheets and the due date and get your child to break it down into do-able chunks, always leaving extra time at the end of last-minute panic!” — Mari

“We do not allow screens through the week (particularly computer games). We’ve made this a habit and family norm from early on so it’s just accepted and isn’t a continuous fight. That way it’s a treat on weekends and time during the week can be spent getting school work done, playing and unwinding from school, and doing sports or other active outdoor things.” — Rosie

Building resilience

We use the ‘Oh Dear!’ scale to help our daughter cope with fall outs with her peers at school or girlie bickering between friends. Whenever she is upset (usually like it’s the end of the world) we get the whiteboard out and draw a scale from 1 to 10. Then we go through all the bad things that have happened in our lives or could happen, losing jobs, death of a grandparent, loss of a limb, losing $50 etc. We put them on the scale and then we look at what has happened with her at school / with friends, this always ends up between one and two generally and it really helps her process that it isn’t a big thing and helps her move on and shake it off. It works really well for her.”— Sally

“When my daughter was little and asked for stuff, I wanted her to feel that I always listened to her. However, I didn't want to give in to each of her whims, so I used this phrase a lot...'thank you for telling me’.” – Miriam

 

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